A Mum's Journey with Dyspraxia

A Mum’s headache…

20140721_155937A Mum’s headache… schools!  School is such a difficult decision when you have a special child.  I made the choice to send Kaden to an Alternative School – http://www.tamariki.school.nz/ – which follows a special character around developing a child’s emotional strength and learning through play.  I am a huge advocate for schools that support a child’s development, not just their learning.  It is so important to give children the respect they deserve and I see all too often children in mainstream education children being treated like they are less worthy than the adult.  They are not heard and understood – they are just told to be and do, as all the others are.

Unfortunately for Kaden, he was becoming “lost” at school.  The self directed learning was not working for him, he needed more guidance and structure in his day.  I couldn’t bring myself to consider a mainstream school and found myself a bit lost.  As I said in my previous post we have such a massive team of professionals that have been amazing support and they gave me the information I needed to approach a private school that specialises in children with learning disabilities.  I felt concerned it would be out of reach for us so it was a confidence thing for me too – scared of that rejection and disappointment… Kaden was accepted! 

So over a month on and Kaden is getting the best education and therapies we can offer him.  He has specialised teachers, speech therapy and occupational therapy weekly and loves the small school with kids that have struggles just like him.  His education plan is personalised and already, even after such a short time, he has made massive progress!  Feeling super proud of him, without hesitation he changed schools and faced a bigger challenge than most adults would cope with.  He did it with pride and confidence and showed everyone just how awesome he is!

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Long awaited update…

It’s been so long! I had a comment posted on my last blog today asking how things were going for Kaden now…. And that’s when I realized it has been 15 months since my last blog! Time flies when you are having fun!

Where to start?  Well, managing behaviour was where I left off. At the time we were having problems with Kaden’s frustration levels. After lots of support and help we came to realize this was his clear backlash to having surgery (twice) and his anxiety levels around being unwell and having to potentially go back into hospital. It is amazing how a child’s approach to life changes drastically as soon as the adult in his world learns to completely understand his perception of the world.

My advice to all parents with special kids is to welcome the help offered by every service offered. Kaden has a massive team of great professionals that back my parenting style and support my approach to Kaden and guess what… it has worked! Lots of love, respect and guidance. Kaden is great, his communication is getting better all the time, his anxiety is being managed and he is happy. His behaviour management is now exactly like the other kids in our household and he is treated no different to his siblings. Amazing things happen when given the ability to express emotions and frustrations freely. He still has dyspraxia and will always have frustrations because of this but now that his parents and caregivers have the knowledge on how to support him through these frustrations, life is great for Kaden!

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